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Sandra Tyler
Author
The Night Garden: of My Mother
Sandra Tyler, author
When her 86-year-old mother falls and breaks her hip, Sandra Tyler is 42, with a nursing infant and precocious toddler. In her forthcoming memoir THE NIGHT GARDEN: OF MY MOTHER (Pierian Springs Press; October 23, 2024), Tyler, the acclaimed author of BLUE GLASS, a New York Times Notable Book of The Year, mines what it means to be divided between the role of mother and daughter, with empathy and affectionate comedy. After this fall, Tyler’s mother insists on hiring her own caregivers—a motley patchwork of lost souls, including the too-friendly who think Scrabble is a good idea. But when she has a near-fatal fall, it is the author who hires a live-in aide, Chandice, who moves into her mother’s house as if it were her own, with her KitchenAid mixer, bake pans, and apple-and-kale concoctions. Where should Tyler’s allegiance lie when her mother threatens to fire Chandice for overloading the washing machine? At what cost to their relationship should she no longer defer to her mother’s staunch guidance? As her mother’s dementia worsens, Chandice warns the author about other daughters “gone crazy” watching their mothers become unrecognizable—after her mother’s death, the author is admitted to a psychiatric ward, where she sleeps the “sleep of the dying,” as her mother slept in her final weeks. But in the timelessness of this ward, she can wonder: was her closeness with her mother not of best friends, but something inherent in their dispositions as a writer and artist—in that compulsion to be seen and heard? The Night Garden candidly explores what it means for a daughter to have her focus fractured by conflicting responsibilities while still seeking, above all else, her mother’s approval, protection and love.
Reviews
Tyler (author of Blue Glass) delivers a wry but ultimately tender memoir focused on her relationship with her aging mother, drawn against the context of her own role as mother of two young children. Though largely focused on the latter part of her mother Elizabeth’s life, Tyler’s introspective reminiscences reach back into her own childhood and forward—into the experience of her mother’s death and its aftermath. Tyler’s dialogue of her conversations with her mother, and with her live-in aide, Chandice, sparkle with lively, personality-filled wit, spotlighting the strong sense of each individual character.

Tyler’s skill in bringing thoughtful perspective and lyrical prose to the mundanities of daily life shines through in her expression of the deep love for a person so central to her life, alongside the intense frustration that comes with managing her mother’s lucid stubbornness and cognitive confusion. Though there are amusing moments that spring from both Elizabeth’s larger-than-life personality and the dissonance that accompanies her failure to acknowledge her own decline, these mostly serve to lighten a compassionate but sometimes heavy narrative.

Though Tyler references the logistical complexities of parenting young children while managing an aging parent—and of curating her children’s relationship with a declining grandparent—she keeps her focus primarily on her own experiences. Her relationship with Elizabeth’s artistic side comes through as she considers the titular painting, which Elizabeth’s own mother rejected, but which Tyler tries to embrace after her mother gifts it to her; this also aids Tyler’s later asides into deep explorations of identity, as she muses “even here, in this murky suspension between the then and now, I was this: I was my mother’s daughter.” Tyler’s expression of the difficult transformations that occur between caregiving and requiring care, especially for women who take on traditional familial roles, resonates with human universality.

Takeaway: Beautifully honest memoir of an adult daughter caretaking her aging mother.

Comparable Titles: Katie Hafner’s Mother Daughter Me, Loretta Anne Woodward Veney’s Being My Mom’s Mom.

Production grades
Cover: A
Design and typography: A
Illustrations: N/A
Editing: A
Marketing copy: A

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