Tyler’s skill in bringing thoughtful perspective and lyrical prose to the mundanities of daily life shines through in her expression of the deep love for a person so central to her life, alongside the intense frustration that comes with managing her mother’s lucid stubbornness and cognitive confusion. Though there are amusing moments that spring from both Elizabeth’s larger-than-life personality and the dissonance that accompanies her failure to acknowledge her own decline, these mostly serve to lighten a compassionate but sometimes heavy narrative.
Though Tyler references the logistical complexities of parenting young children while managing an aging parent—and of curating her children’s relationship with a declining grandparent—she keeps her focus primarily on her own experiences. Her relationship with Elizabeth’s artistic side comes through as she considers the titular painting, which Elizabeth’s own mother rejected, but which Tyler tries to embrace after her mother gifts it to her; this also aids Tyler’s later asides into deep explorations of identity, as she muses “even here, in this murky suspension between the then and now, I was this: I was my mother’s daughter.” Tyler’s expression of the difficult transformations that occur between caregiving and requiring care, especially for women who take on traditional familial roles, resonates with human universality.
Takeaway: Beautifully honest memoir of an adult daughter caretaking her aging mother.
Comparable Titles: Katie Hafner’s Mother Daughter Me, Loretta Anne Woodward Veney’s Being My Mom’s Mom.
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Editing: A
Marketing copy: A